The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
The Myth of the Good Mum: Why You Don’t Need to Be a Superhero to Be Enough
We’ve been told that a “good mum” is endlessly patient, perfectly organised, and always available — but what if that belief is what’s breaking us? In this week’s episode, I unpack the myth of the “good mother,” where it came from, who benefits from it, and how we can finally let it go — with gentleness, truth, and enoughness.
Is It Burnout or Hormones? (Or Just Me Falling Apart?)
When post-diagnosis matrescence, chronic caregiving stress, and perimenopause collide, it can feel like you’re falling apart. You’re not. Here’s how to name it, navigate it, and care for the woman you’re becoming.
When Control Is Fear in Disguise
When we grip tighter out of fear, we often lose the very peace we’re trying to protect. This post explores how the need for control can mask deep fear — and how learning to soften our hold can help us reconnect with our children, ourselves, and the journey we’re on.
Rewriting the Script: What If You Spoke to Yourself Like Someone You Loved?
We say things to ourselves we’d never say to anyone else — not even someone we disliked. This episode is an invitation to pause, soften, and begin speaking to yourself with the same kindness you offer everyone else. Because you can’t shame yourself into healing. But you can love yourself into peace.
The Care We Carry: What Feminism Forgot About Motherhood
Care isn’t a lifestyle or a love language… it’s invisible infrastructure. This companion post explores Care Feminism, the mental load of parenting a neurodivergent/disabled child, and why naming our labour as work is a feminist act. Love matters. But love alone can’t replace systems.
Too Strong for Too Long: The Hidden Burnout of Motherhood
There’s a certain kind of strength that isn’t strength at all — it’s survival. In Too Strong for Too Long, I talk about the hidden burnout of motherhood, the rage beneath resilience, and what it means to finally let the cracks show.