The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
Kick at the Darkness: Holding on to Hope When It Feels Like Too Much
When life with a neurodivergent or disabled child feels like “too much,” hope can seem far away. This piece explores hope as a practical, body-based skill — not toxic positivity — with gentle stories, a 3-minute grounding practice, and reflection prompts to help you keep going when the system and the day are both heavy.
The Myth of the Good Mum: Why You Don’t Need to Be a Superhero to Be Enough
We’ve been told that a “good mum” is endlessly patient, perfectly organised, and always available — but what if that belief is what’s breaking us? In this week’s episode, I unpack the myth of the “good mother,” where it came from, who benefits from it, and how we can finally let it go — with gentleness, truth, and enoughness.
High Needs, Low Needs, Same Fight: Why We’re Stronger Together
Dividing autistic children into “high” and “low” needs doesn’t protect anyone — it harms us all. This is how the false divide shows up in policy, in our homes, and in our hearts — and why the only way forward is solidarity.
You Are Not to Blame: Tylenol Headlines, Autism, and the Toll of Blame on Mothers
Another week, another headline claiming to have found “the cause” of autism — this time, paracetamol. Here’s what the research really says, why the blame always seems to fall on mothers, and how to release guilt that never belonged to you in the first place.