The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
The Myth of the Good Mum: Why You Don’t Need to Be a Superhero to Be Enough
We’ve been told that a “good mum” is endlessly patient, perfectly organised, and always available — but what if that belief is what’s breaking us? In this week’s episode, I unpack the myth of the “good mother,” where it came from, who benefits from it, and how we can finally let it go — with gentleness, truth, and enoughness.
This Isn’t What I Expected: Processing the Emotional Highs and Lows of Your Child’s Diagnosis
When your child is diagnosed - with autism, a disability, or anything that changes the path you imagined - the emotions can feel like a storm. One moment there’s relief and clarity; the next, grief and fear. This post explores how to hold those contradictions with compassion, how matrescence shapes your emotional landscape, and how to process it all without guilt or shame. You’re not broken for feeling everything… you’re human, and you’re doing your best.
Who Am I Now? Rediscovering Yourself After Your Child’s Diagnosis
After your child’s diagnosis, it’s common to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Explore how to grieve, rediscover, and rebuild your identity as a mother through self-compassion and connection.