The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
The Myth of the Good Mum: Why You Don’t Need to Be a Superhero to Be Enough
We’ve been told that a “good mum” is endlessly patient, perfectly organised, and always available — but what if that belief is what’s breaking us? In this week’s episode, I unpack the myth of the “good mother,” where it came from, who benefits from it, and how we can finally let it go — with gentleness, truth, and enoughness.
The Care We Carry: What Feminism Forgot About Motherhood
Care isn’t a lifestyle or a love language… it’s invisible infrastructure. This companion post explores Care Feminism, the mental load of parenting a neurodivergent/disabled child, and why naming our labour as work is a feminist act. Love matters. But love alone can’t replace systems.
Only Half the Story: The Emotional Toll of Proving Your Child’s Needs
So much of parenting a neurodivergent child involves proving what’s “wrong” just to access support. But what happens to us — and to them — when the system only sees half the story? This reflection explores the emotional toll of deficit-based forms and meetings, and the quiet strength it takes to hold on to the rest.
When Public Figures Get It Wrong
When public figures make harmful claims about autism, it doesn’t just make headlines — it makes heartbreak. It reopens wounds parents are still learning how to live with. In this deeply personal piece, I share what RFK Jr. and Mary Butler TD got wrong, how it impacts real families, and why we must protect our children not just with services, but with the stories we tell about them.