The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
Is It Burnout or Hormones? (Or Just Me Falling Apart?)
When post-diagnosis matrescence, chronic caregiving stress, and perimenopause collide, it can feel like you’re falling apart. You’re not. Here’s how to name it, navigate it, and care for the woman you’re becoming.
When Control Is Fear in Disguise
When we grip tighter out of fear, we often lose the very peace we’re trying to protect. This post explores how the need for control can mask deep fear — and how learning to soften our hold can help us reconnect with our children, ourselves, and the journey we’re on.
The Care We Carry: What Feminism Forgot About Motherhood
Care isn’t a lifestyle or a love language… it’s invisible infrastructure. This companion post explores Care Feminism, the mental load of parenting a neurodivergent/disabled child, and why naming our labour as work is a feminist act. Love matters. But love alone can’t replace systems.
Let There Be Softness: Reclaiming Strength Without the Armour
You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to prove strength.
In this post, we talk about the quiet, healing power of softness — how it helps you breathe again, connect again, and remember that you were never meant to carry it all alone.
Too Strong for Too Long: The Hidden Burnout of Motherhood
There’s a certain kind of strength that isn’t strength at all — it’s survival. In Too Strong for Too Long, I talk about the hidden burnout of motherhood, the rage beneath resilience, and what it means to finally let the cracks show.
The First of Your Kind: Parenting an Autistic Child Without a Map
Being the first in your family to raise a neurodivergent or disabled child means walking without a map — rewriting motherhood as you go. This post explores the loneliness, the hidden strength, and the quiet revolution of becoming the mother your child needs.
Motherhood & Guilt: How to Let Go of “I Should Have Known Sooner”
So many mothers carry the quiet ache of I should have known sooner. This blog explores where that guilt comes from, how medical and social systems feed it, and how to release it with compassion and context… one gentle breath at a time.
Welcome to Fi(ND)ing Motherhood
Motherhood after diagnosis reshapes everything — your routines, your identity, your heart. In Welcome to Fi(ND)ing Motherhood, I share my story of learning to carry the invisible weight with more compassion, and finding meaning again through matrescence.