The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
Kick at the Darkness: Holding on to Hope When It Feels Like Too Much
When life with a neurodivergent or disabled child feels like “too much,” hope can seem far away. This piece explores hope as a practical, body-based skill — not toxic positivity — with gentle stories, a 3-minute grounding practice, and reflection prompts to help you keep going when the system and the day are both heavy.
The Myth of the Good Mum: Why You Don’t Need to Be a Superhero to Be Enough
We’ve been told that a “good mum” is endlessly patient, perfectly organised, and always available — but what if that belief is what’s breaking us? In this week’s episode, I unpack the myth of the “good mother,” where it came from, who benefits from it, and how we can finally let it go — with gentleness, truth, and enoughness.
Is It Burnout or Hormones? (Or Just Me Falling Apart?)
When post-diagnosis matrescence, chronic caregiving stress, and perimenopause collide, it can feel like you’re falling apart. You’re not. Here’s how to name it, navigate it, and care for the woman you’re becoming.
Rewriting the Script: What If You Spoke to Yourself Like Someone You Loved?
We say things to ourselves we’d never say to anyone else — not even someone we disliked. This episode is an invitation to pause, soften, and begin speaking to yourself with the same kindness you offer everyone else. Because you can’t shame yourself into healing. But you can love yourself into peace.
Who Am I Now? Rediscovering Yourself After Your Child’s Diagnosis
After your child’s diagnosis, it’s common to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Explore how to grieve, rediscover, and rebuild your identity as a mother through self-compassion and connection.