The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
High Needs, Low Needs, Same Fight: Why We’re Stronger Together
Dividing autistic children into “high” and “low” needs doesn’t protect anyone — it harms us all. This is how the false divide shows up in policy, in our homes, and in our hearts — and why the only way forward is solidarity.
Rewriting the Script: What If You Spoke to Yourself Like Someone You Loved?
We say things to ourselves we’d never say to anyone else — not even someone we disliked. This episode is an invitation to pause, soften, and begin speaking to yourself with the same kindness you offer everyone else. Because you can’t shame yourself into healing. But you can love yourself into peace.
The Care We Carry: What Feminism Forgot About Motherhood
Care isn’t a lifestyle or a love language… it’s invisible infrastructure. This companion post explores Care Feminism, the mental load of parenting a neurodivergent/disabled child, and why naming our labour as work is a feminist act. Love matters. But love alone can’t replace systems.
Too Strong for Too Long: The Hidden Burnout of Motherhood
There’s a certain kind of strength that isn’t strength at all — it’s survival. In Too Strong for Too Long, I talk about the hidden burnout of motherhood, the rage beneath resilience, and what it means to finally let the cracks show.
When Public Figures Get It Wrong
When public figures make harmful claims about autism, it doesn’t just make headlines — it makes heartbreak. It reopens wounds parents are still learning how to live with. In this deeply personal piece, I share what RFK Jr. and Mary Butler TD got wrong, how it impacts real families, and why we must protect our children not just with services, but with the stories we tell about them.