The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
You Are Not to Blame: Tylenol Headlines, Autism, and the Toll of Blame on Mothers
Another week, another headline claiming to have found “the cause” of autism — this time, paracetamol. Here’s what the research really says, why the blame always seems to fall on mothers, and how to release guilt that never belonged to you in the first place.
Is It Burnout or Hormones? (Or Just Me Falling Apart?)
When post-diagnosis matrescence, chronic caregiving stress, and perimenopause collide, it can feel like you’re falling apart. You’re not. Here’s how to name it, navigate it, and care for the woman you’re becoming.
Some Days I Don’t Want to Fight Anymore
Some days, the fight just goes out of you. After yet another school meeting or system battle, you sit in the car and feel… nothing. No anger. No tears. Just the numbness that comes from trying too hard for too long.
This post is about the quiet cost of advocacy — the emotional exhaustion, the nervous system shutdown, and the moments when even the strongest mothers feel like they can’t keep going. Through honesty, science, and self-compassion, we explores what it means to rest without guilt and return to yourself without shame.
Because sometimes, letting go of the fight is how we find our strength again.
Welcome to Fi(ND)ing Motherhood
Motherhood after diagnosis reshapes everything — your routines, your identity, your heart. In Welcome to Fi(ND)ing Motherhood, I share my story of learning to carry the invisible weight with more compassion, and finding meaning again through matrescence.