The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:

Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children

Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.

These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.

Only Half the Story: The Emotional Toll of Proving Your Child’s Needs
Advocacy & Systems, Neurodivergent Motherhood, Systems & Society, Emotional Wellbeing Kirsten Killoran Advocacy & Systems, Neurodivergent Motherhood, Systems & Society, Emotional Wellbeing Kirsten Killoran

Only Half the Story: The Emotional Toll of Proving Your Child’s Needs

So much of parenting a neurodivergent child involves proving what’s “wrong” just to access support. But what happens to us — and to them — when the system only sees half the story? This reflection explores the emotional toll of deficit-based forms and meetings, and the quiet strength it takes to hold on to the rest.

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Who Am I Now? Rediscovering Yourself After Your Child’s Diagnosis
Motherhood & Identity, Emotional Wellbeing, Neurodivergent Motherhood, Matrescence Journey Kirsten Killoran Motherhood & Identity, Emotional Wellbeing, Neurodivergent Motherhood, Matrescence Journey Kirsten Killoran

Who Am I Now? Rediscovering Yourself After Your Child’s Diagnosis

After your child’s diagnosis, it’s common to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Explore how to grieve, rediscover, and rebuild your identity as a mother through self-compassion and connection.

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