The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal:
Reflections on Matrescence and Raising Neurodivergent Children
Welcome to The Fi(ND)ing Motherhood Journal — a collection of reflections, insights, and personal stories exploring the transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence. Here, I write about what it really means to raise neurodivergent and disabled children in a world that often misunderstands them — and us.
These pieces are adapted from the Fi(ND)ing Motherhood podcast, blending lived experience, research, and heart-led honesty to help you feel seen, grounded, and less alone on this journey. Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or years into parenting a child with additional needs, you’ll find compassion, community, and calm here.
Kick at the Darkness: Holding on to Hope When It Feels Like Too Much
When life with a neurodivergent or disabled child feels like “too much,” hope can seem far away. This piece explores hope as a practical, body-based skill — not toxic positivity — with gentle stories, a 3-minute grounding practice, and reflection prompts to help you keep going when the system and the day are both heavy.
High Needs, Low Needs, Same Fight: Why We’re Stronger Together
Dividing autistic children into “high” and “low” needs doesn’t protect anyone — it harms us all. This is how the false divide shows up in policy, in our homes, and in our hearts — and why the only way forward is solidarity.
The Care We Carry: What Feminism Forgot About Motherhood
Care isn’t a lifestyle or a love language… it’s invisible infrastructure. This companion post explores Care Feminism, the mental load of parenting a neurodivergent/disabled child, and why naming our labour as work is a feminist act. Love matters. But love alone can’t replace systems.